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Should I be bothered by this? - princess - 02-20-2014 09:05 PM
So I got on my boyfriends facebook today and seen that a girl that he had 30 mutual friends with had accepted his friend request over a week ago. I texted him and asked if he thinks it's okay to send other girls/guys requests when you're in a relationship. He said "as long as u don't talk to them or they don't talk to u." I said that I don't need to send any other guys a request because I only wanted to talk to him. & he replied saying that he would delete his facebook if it meant having a healthy relationship and that he doesn't need to send other girls friend requests either... But I just seen that a girl accepted his request.. Should I be upset by this or not? Thanks!
- Meredith - 02-20-2014 09:12 PM
No I think you're overreacting. Don't be so controlling. Trust your bf and tell him he is allowed to do that kind of thing. Being scared and sheltering him won't be good for you two.
- Calysta - 02-20-2014 09:22 PM
He just excepted a request I mean, it's nothing compared to flirting with them. I still talk to guys even tho I have a bf and my bf doesn't worry but a friend request isn't as big of deal as you might see it. Good luck!
- Sir J - 02-20-2014 09:24 PM
You have an unhealthy relationship. He can't have female friends and you can't have male friends? Trust issues? Wow.
- POPCORN - 02-20-2014 09:32 PM
I wouldn't be too worried about it. I was friends with plenty of other guys on Facebook while I was with my bf. As long as he isn't flirting with other girls, then I personally think it's fine. But that's just me. My comfort levels may be different than yours. The good thing is, your bf respects that and would be willing to do anything to keep a good relationship with you. Honestly though, I wouldn't get too worked up over something that happens on Facebook. It's really up to you, though.
- Heather - 02-20-2014 09:38 PM
well it all depends on if you asked him to delete it, but I would say to not worry about those girls, try not to push him away with jealousy. but if it it's a serious issue to you than make it clear not to friend other girls because you don't feel comfortable with it
- om - 02-20-2014 09:41 PM
What you need to do us practice 100% trust. Don't snoop around (we all have been there..) always trust. It does not matter what he does. If he ever does something wrong, it will come out. Always does. I would rather be cheated on 1000 times over than deny one person trust. Your only damaging yourself not practicing 100% trust. You may think.., yeah right.. I'm not going to be a mug... Well there is no such thing. You can only hold your head up high knowing you have face trust no matter what happens. Or you can go down the non trust route and give yourself a medal for catching him cheating (if he ever does) with a pat on the back. You see what I mean?
Much luck and respect,
Om
- Colin - 02-20-2014 09:46 PM
Honestly he's gonna be furious if you blow it outa proportion DO NOT DO NOT BLOW IT OUTA PROPORTION !!! I CAN NOT STRESS THAT ENOUGH!!! NOTHING NOTHING WILL PISS HIM OFF MORE!!!! and it might lead to him wanting to break up but you just need to chill he's with you for a reason if he wanted that girl he would have left 2 weeks ago trust me and no don't start thinking now I have to be careful this means you can kick back and watch a movie but just tell him you're uncomfortable with it don't force anything just tell him it makes you jealous and then say something like you don't have to delete it I just don't appreciate it or something but don't get sassy bc this will go back to what I said above and that's a huge no no
Check out what I just posted if you could
- Ann-Marie - 02-20-2014 09:53 PM
Trust your boyfriend because if you don't trust him then in time he will go away from you , just because a request has been accepted it doesn't mean anything so don't let it bother you it doesn't mean that hell cheat on you.
- qwertyui - 02-20-2014 10:02 PM
u are overreacting