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Am I going through a mid life crisis? - 527 - 03-24-2014 11:07 AM
I am thirty- six and a single mother of three children. Right lately I have been wanting to reach out to people that I went to Elementary School with and to people that I was raised up with as a child. I have recently started a Facebook page. I could have started one years ago but had no desire to reach out to anyone.
I did not have the best childhood. Both my parents were drug addicts and I was in the system for many years. I have no desire to let my parents back into my life for the simple reason they are still on drugs and treat my children badly. I have not spoken to them in three years. I have been thinking about my past a lot lately and some of the mistakes that I have made. It feels so refreshing to meet and talk to people I knew as a child. I don't know if I/m going through a midlife crisis but I have this strong urge to think about the past and to reach out to people from my past, what is wrong with me?
- Michael - 03-24-2014 11:15 AM
Maybe it is a subconscious attempt to find closure with some of the issues you mention. You are remising in the subconscious attempt to revisit some events to try and understand them better to better understand yourself, what caused these issues and find peace with your past.
- Neil - 03-24-2014 11:30 AM
No, you're just being sentimental, wanting to 'revisit' your youth to see how it looks from an adult perspective.
2 things you NEED to keep in mind, IF you do that though.
1. It won't be the same, so it'll undo some beliefs you had, maybe make some things easier, it could also create some problems, make things more complicated.
2. Remember that you're looking-back, you're not going-back, a lot of people that reach out to old-friends, can overstep boundaries, and reconnect in ways that are very destructive for the present, and since your goal is to find a 'vision' for the future, you need to be aware, and take precautions for this, because you don't want to ruin things now, to relive childhood fantasies.
- Alion - 03-24-2014 11:43 AM
There's nothing wrong with you-it's natural to want to connect with people. Being a single mother,you're probably very busy and don't have a lot of time to meet new people,your parents are not an option from what you've said,so getting in touch with old friends sounds like the way to go.
Facebook can be a good way to do that-I've only been on it for a year and have already been in contact with people I haven't seen in years,in some cases decades. I think you're doing the right thing,taking steps to reach out.