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Is it okay for someone in a relationship to be Facebook friends with someone they slept with? - Nessa - 03-24-2014 11:07 AM
My boyfriend thinks its completely okay for him to have girls he's slept with in the past as Facebook friends. I tell him how insecure it makes me and how disrespectful it is to me..but he says that I'm overreacting.
I should've added that we'd been best friends for 3 years before we started dating so I know girls that hes been involved with and details and how he felt about them. We've been dating for 2 years now.
- Kevin - 03-24-2014 11:14 AM
Why not? 90% of my Facebook friends aren't real friends anyways.
- 38lsb - 03-24-2014 11:22 AM
Facebook friends aren't real friends anyway.
- JuPe - 03-24-2014 11:24 AM
I have several friends on Facebook that I have slept with... My girlfriend doesn't seem to mind.. I think the older you get, the less it will bother you..
- KattDogg - 03-24-2014 11:29 AM
That's very disrespectful of him. Why does he keep them on there? He should delete them.. If deleting them is a problem for him, then why does he care? If he's with you, he doesn't need to see them and their updates! You are totally normal for feeling the way you do. If he refuses to delete them then he doesn't care about your feelings enough.
- Charity - 03-24-2014 11:31 AM
I'm happily married but have guys I've slept with b4 as friends we just dnt tlk. As long as he's not chatting it up with them then it's ok. It's a part of growing up an earning trust, without trust there's no relationship
- Steve - 03-24-2014 11:34 AM
Well, I'm a guy and i say its kind of in between. It depends if you and him are in a serious relationship, had any type of relations. How long you and him have been together. But overall, i think he should block out sex thoughts about them, and if they're not friends in real life, remove them.
- mpod92 - 03-24-2014 11:39 AM
Social media messes up all types of relationships. In all honesty if my boyfriend was friends with his ex on Facebook I wouldn't really be upset. Because I have plenty of my ex's on Facebook and I don't even talk to them.
- Kalinda - 03-24-2014 11:49 AM
I will make this simple and clean.....
It is disrespectful to have the person that he has slept with as a friend. However, it is different to have them as a friend in Facebook from talking to the girl. If he is talking to her, i would say that it is disrespectful because they might still have some kind of spark. If he think that you are overreacting, that's a sign that he wont care of your feelings. I would not say that you are being insecure, I think you have that instinct that something will happen.