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Should you remain friends during a separation? - A - 03-24-2014 04:51 PM
Fiancé wanted a break, he is under immense stress and is depressed, and we had an argument. Instead of letting me be there and try to help, he decided he wanted a break. For 2-3 months. For the first few weeks he ignored every attempt I made at communication, then he finally called. He started calling everyday. But we haven't seen each other and he only calls or texts at his convenience. He will take hours to respond to me. It really hurts me because I got my hopes up that his calls were good and he says he loves me, but he won't text he loves me and when started taking hour to reply I've realized he's just like keeping me here when it's convenient for him. He didnt call me at all on Christmas or even say merry Christmas. Although he commented all over to others online. He has me removed from all his social media as well. I don't know what to do, if I cut off communication it will likely be over for good because he will get angry if I don't reply, but it's killing me just being somewhat friends when he wants and him deleting me on everything. What should I do?
- Patrick - 03-24-2014 05:00 PM
Dump the guy and start 2014 off right. New places and new faces. Your not getting any younger.
- Gabe - 03-24-2014 05:07 PM
No, don't be friends. What he needs and what you need is time to sort out your priorities and get them straight. All in all good luck and next time look for a guy who knows what he wants.
- IndianaJohn - 03-24-2014 05:11 PM
don't contact him anymore, make him come to you.
if he doesn't then that will tell you all you need to know.
- Gentalman - 03-24-2014 05:13 PM
Move on, he a jerk.he is not sure about marrying you He has found another one. No one does that to their fiance . Stress is just an excuse to leave you.and dont stay friend with him.
- Girish Mehta - 03-24-2014 05:23 PM
My dear friend, my sincere advice to you is to remain incommunicado during separation. Then only he will come back.
- tanja3703 - 03-24-2014 05:30 PM
Give him his break and move on. Go out with your own friends and stop responding immediately to his emails or texts. Let him wonder where you are and what you're doing. If he wants you, then he'll try harder. If he doesn't then he won't. Can't force him to feel anything he doesn't want to. Sounds to me like marriage to you is not what he wants and he's trying to be nice about it. No point sticking around on the tight leash he wants you on. If you are jumping through hoops now to avoid him getting angry, this is how your entire marriage will be. He ended it, so you are free to do as you please also and should.