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Friends said bad things in front of me but now the guy friend has apologized, what should i do? - Nick - 03-24-2014 04:55 PM
So, We had some fights before too, (actually they said bad things to me and i only defended myself and did not hurt tried to hurt them)... but this time things went pretty rough.
They said bad things about me and my other friends and they made me feel very bad. They basically threw all the fault at me that we aren't like before.
Even though i tried to bring the best with our friendship they always did something bad and i just could not tolerate this anymore.
In the past, a friend tried to destroy a friendship with my ex-best friend (so i he could be his best friend) and he nearly succeeded.. but i forgave him and moved on along with that friend.
i know he has some psychological problems but i just cant stand it anymore.. and as for the female friend, she was kind of backstabbing me with him (the guy friend).
After 3 weeks of not speaking to them, the guy friend, spoke to me in skype but i didnt answer. Then suddenly he spoke to all my friends as if he had understood that something was wrong. Then another friend who knows me and him explained the situation and he wanted to apologize. Also after not speaking to them, the friends did some check in's at facebook basically provoking me.. even my other friends realized that.
Also, my other friends are convinced that he is right except for one who knows what he did in the past. Also the female friend wants to provoke me a bit.. I am unsure if i want to keep hanging out with them anymore but i have met them my other friends and they try to pressure me a little bit into forgiving them, but i dont think i can, deep inside i just know it wasnt the first time they did hurt.
So should i move on and forgive, or forgive and stay with them?
(p.s I had told some months before to my other friends that i think they will hurt me and i dont really know if i should hang out with them anymore)
Anyways thanks in response and sorry for my bad grammar..
- Marlin Darlin - 03-24-2014 04:59 PM
Make new friends...these ppl lack INTEGRITY...and are drama mamas and daddies! Kick this group of losers to the CURB!
- Helen - 03-24-2014 05:00 PM
"Forgiving" someone doesn't always mean accepting them back into your life.
It's always better to forgive someone, because holding on to anger only hurts you. Forgive them for your own peace of mind. But if they are bad friends and not people who are good for you to be around, then simply tell them you forgive them, but don't want to be friends anymore.