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is it completely unreasonable to be jealous of my bf's facebook female friends? - 953 - 04-07-2014 08:21 AM
He doesnt wanna re add me to his friends list since i re-joined fb, says it cuz he doesnt need fb to define our relatnship, mind u all i asked was that he add me, nothing about relatnshp status or anything. I went on there and saw hed been commenting on at least a couple of his female friends pics calling them pretty etc...ive always been jealous and he knows that and he knows the reason i get jealous is cuz he adds random gorgeous womenas well as local.1's he went to comp programming school w/ last yr and pays a lot of attn to their slutty pics but tells me theyre just friends, i should mention were in a long distance rel. so phone, txt and comp cimmunication is all we have til he visits again..so i feel like its extra hard in the trust dept. I feel like hes hiding me from someone or them from me and he never wants to talk bout it when i bring the subj up, he gets a bit defensive clams up n changes the subj or stops msging me back entirely for a long while. Should i be sususpicious?
- Charlie - 04-07-2014 08:32 AM
yup, completely unreasonable AND super insecure.
its facebook, get over it.
- Rachel - 04-07-2014 08:48 AM
When you meet up tell him how you feel face to face and he may tell you the real reason he his being like this. You could just be worrying too much like I do. Try posting a picture of yourself and some friends on fb and see if he says anything about how pretty you are. Try asking one of his friends that he sees a lot (And won't snitch on you) if he ever talks about you when your not there. Good Luck
xx
- gator_ce - 04-07-2014 09:00 AM
As a male, when faced with an insecure female, I view that is their problem and not mine. The fact that he is adding attractive women is not really the problem. It would seem that even if every girl on FB was ugly, you would still have an issue with trust.
You do not mention any reason for being jealous, you simple state that you are. Your boyfriend is not responsible for the lack of self esteem, which is often at the core of jealousy.
You may wish to examine that aspect of the issue before worrying about your boyfriend. In the long run, for a man who is not included to cheat, Jealousy is like an accusation and unpleasant. You are punishing him for a crime he may not have committed. That can only lead to him pulling away. The vacuum in self esteem is a void only you can fill. It sounds like instead of focusing this energy on this non-productive line of action. The best thing for you would be to seek consultation for this issue. until that is under-control you will never trust others.