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I need advice please? - Soo-kyung Hae - 04-23-2014 05:50 AM
Please help me, i don't know what to do anymore..
i'm 16.. I have a classmate who everyone likes.. they think she's smart, cute, etc.. I think it's getting a little in her head because when we have group work/project, she always bosses me around.. she talks to me like i'm her henchman/woman..
i think it's my problem too because i really hate when people tell me what to do.. for me at least they can talk to me nicely about it..especially in that major project we're currently working on, and i'm the one who contributed most of it.. what i hate is when i worked really hard for most of the project, and she still bosses me around, like " "Please" Pay for the project tomorrow, i had to take money from my allowance just for the printing." or something like that, but harsher..
I mean, what's up with the quotation marks?! not to mention her way of speaking/chatting..
And what i hate most is we're friends, but to me lately she's been treating me like dirt.. i don't know if it's just me but.. that's what i feel.. maybe i'm having trust issues.. i'm not sure.. so i told her everything that i was feeling about them(my friends),
because, in the past, they told me, if i wanted to tell something, i should just tell them, but i think the situation got worse.. they got mad at me.. i think they spread rumors about me.. i'm not sure who really spread them but there are definitely rumors.. and others are starting to post hate statuses (or whatever you call it) on facebook.. and i can't bear reading them so i'm starting to unfriend them one by one.. because of that, everyone hates me now, and again everyone likes her.. i have no one to tell.. i can tell my mom but she's always busy at work.. and when she comes home, it's either she's hot-headed or really tired.. and i can't face my classmates tomorrow what can i do??
- Ysabel - 04-23-2014 06:06 AM
Trust what you feel. The fact that you're having trust issues only goes to show that you're doubting. And doubting a friendship already means it's not a friendship in the first place. You shouldn't let yourself be bossed around and allow yourself be a slave. Somehow there is a psychological effect in you to convince yourself that it is still a friendship. The fact that everyone likes her could be a factor. Try looking at the bigger picture: do you honestly even want to repair a friendship like this? Throw it away, burn it if you can. Although we can cite the fact that she could be behaving like this due to a certain matter, forget it. I say let yourself be pushed away shut. I don't care if everyone sides with her; take care of yourself and try concentrating with your homeworks. You shouldn't busy yourself with one classmate for treating you like gibberish.