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Am I over-reacting to his FB comment? - Sandra L - 04-28-2014 10:05 AM
I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now but we're not officially "in a relationship" because we both recently got out of a relationship and don't want to rush into anything. However, we've been acting as though we are in a relationship. I've been over his place just about every weekend, met his parents, met his friends and it just seems like everything we do screams bf/gf. The other day one of his ex-gf had posted on his fb page " you know I am #1 on your best girlfriend list" and he "liked" as well as agreed to it and responded "yeah I'll give you that". His comment and agreeing with her actually hurt me. I admit I have a tendency to get jealous and that's probably due to my insecurities but am I over-reacting to his comment?? It really made me feel like I was nothing and like I have this standard to live up to and maybe that's why he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me.
Thanks for all the feedback so far. I agree with nakedninjagod in that we are not bf/gf so i feel like i shouldn't be complaining but it still hurts because i do have feelings for him. But I definitely see your point Kermit.
Looking forward to more comments..
- dude buddy - 04-28-2014 10:09 AM
You better bang him fast and seal the deal. You better be good and give him the best head ever! Maybe you will get on one of his lists and earn yourself a FB comment
- ladybabe - 04-28-2014 10:11 AM
i think firstly you have to sit him down and ask him if you guys are in a relationship. if he says no, then there's no point keeping your hopes high, you should just move on, though it will hurt. if he says yes, then that's great. you don't have to be the best, the fact that he's with you means he saw something he liked in you.
- broken - 04-28-2014 10:13 AM
you can only ask him hun, it seems selfish. Are you sleeping together? If you are then i hate to say he maybe using you. for some guys meeting friends is nothing, i was used by 3 exes (I see it now) but I met all there friends!! Even stayed over and had coffee made etc, and i was dumb in thinking it meant he liked me, all my guy mates warned me!! Friends mean nothing, its just another conquest to talk about. ask him outright, i could be wrong. But you sound really sweet and don't deserve that.
- up2u - 04-28-2014 10:18 AM
Well he shouldnt of liked it shows he was still intersted in her. If i was you i would so end it before he ends with you. If he asks why tell him why put ya head up and dont get hurt by letting it go.
- nakedninjagod - 04-28-2014 10:24 AM
you have a right to be mad but you are not really bf/gf yet so technically he has done nothing wrong so maybe you should talk to him and just see where you stand
- lilbrin - 04-28-2014 10:32 AM
It seems like he's keeping you there just to satisfy him. I was in the same boat but had to deal with the flirting... They try to make you jealous because as sick as it sounds, they enjoy it. My advice is to not give him that satisfaction by reacting. Show him you don't give a damn. If he wants to really be with you, he will make it official and he won't be ashamed about it at all.. And he wouldn't be talking to his ex like that! A real man wont go to cheap ways to make his girl jealous. Are you talking to your ex like that? If not, you need to seriously analyse where you are at with this person. If it's like this now, imagine what the future holds. Hope this helps.
- Kermit - 04-28-2014 10:33 AM
My ex GF used to post stupid stuff on her FB page that would irk me in the wrong way all the time. Sadly i think FB is the death of all relationships. It drove me and my GF apart severely because i hated seeing her entertain other men who were blatantly flirting with her. I told her how i felt and removed her as a friend on FB even while we were dating to stop having to see her crap. Eventually because of our fights about these kinds of things, our relationship went into a rut.
I am sorry to say but if this guy is saying that kind of stuff knowing you are his friend and can see it he may not be interested in you like you are him. It seems like he is just kind of playing you and it would be best to try and detach yourself from him as soon as you can to avoid more stress.
Comments like that are not cool when you are with someone else, and the sooner idiot boys and girls figure that out, the sooner they will be able to stay in a decent relationship. I consider crap like that to be emotional cheating and its just as bad as regular cheating.
Dump the chump. Its not worth the heartache. Trust me.