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Should I Give Up On Her? - tyber - 06-11-2014 09:12 AM
This girl that goes to my school randomly added me on Facebook in December and has been talking to me pretty much non-stop. She always mentions how she doesn't have a boyfriend and hates how people go for looks over personality. However, with that said she told me that I'm not attractive enough to/for her so she wont date me but she also said she likes talking to me/hanging out and thinks I have an great personality. Now, I'm not like super crazy about this girl but I do kind of like her a little bit and I'm afraid that if I keep talking to her and hanging around her I'm going to really start to like her and just end up hurting myself in the end. She seems to think that wont happen because it hasn't with her other guy friends.
She has also mentioned that in the past she's had no attraction to friends but over time from really getting to know them and hanging out, she has very rarely developed feelings for them so I shouldnt count on it but it's possible. The thing is though, do I keep talking to her and risk me just liking her more while she still views me as undatable or is it worth the "risk" to hope things change? On the off chance she ends up with someone else (She's never had a boyfriend before and doubts herself), I'd probably get hurt/jealous too. She's always said it's her dream to have her boyfriend be a friend first. Any advice?
I cant really just cut her off. I don't really want to either. And no, she doesn't secretly like me or anything.
- JC - 06-11-2014 09:14 AM
Let her be! If she can make up her own mind, then you're better off without her. You need to talk to someone who's not wishy-washy about their feelings.
- David Ames - 06-11-2014 09:16 AM
I think you're supposed to persuade her that shr's wrng about you being undateable
- Sky - 06-11-2014 09:20 AM
Here's what you do: you stop talking to her. I mean not right away, but pull away from her. Talk to her less and less until you two just stop. or barely talk, whichever you would like.