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Why does my friend just STARE at me in class...it makes me nervous? - Yes - 11-09-2012 01:11 PM
We aren't that close yet. But ever since I met her (2 years ago) she'd stare at me A LOT. She's one of those extremely gorgeous girls...but she's very reserved and aloof.
Now in class we sit at different seats on the opposite sides of the room (assigned seats at tables with a group of other people) but have a perfect view of each other...I haven't talked to her or had an actual conversation with her in about a month. She looks at me a lot, but I just avoid eye contact...not because I don't like her, I love her! [no homo] but I'm just really insecure and when people stare at me, I get really nervous and awkward. Some days she won't look at me at all...but then some days she'll stare blatantly at me.
Today I was just sitting there and I can FEEL her staring and when I look over for a quick second she doesn't even look away. She just watches me as I talk to people, or as I sit there doing my work. And when she sees me in the halls, she'll sometimes just stare or she'll smile really big and say hi. And yesterday at the beginning of class she came over to me smiling and asked to borrow a pen...then stared at me a lot all class...
I think maybe she just misses talking to me? But we were never really close??...we've never hung out together really, even when we're alone together it's kinda awkward because I have issues...I'm just extremely self conscious about my appearance, so I close up, ignore her sometimes (well everyone whenever I feel really ugly), act awkward because I'm too worried about what I look like, we've never really "connected" in person...BUT we used to talk on Facebook and text all day and night...everyday...She would open up a lot to me...We have SO much in common...though I would hardly talk to her in person...Yet she still liked me, invited me to do things with her, always seemed so happy when I was around, hugged me whenever she saw me, referred to me as her friends, etc.
But now we haven't talked in awhile...because honestly I've been avoiding her...Because I feel too ugly to talk to people, like my hair looks too dry, my braces and overbite look too prominent, my skin looks dry and dull...I know it's stupid and rude to treat people like sh-t just because I don't wanna be looked at but I've been this way for 4 years...I've just extremely self conscious about my looks.
But her staring confuses me...why does she do that?
We're both girls btw, not lesbians.
- 2-D - 11-09-2012 01:19 PM
She just admires you. I'm the same way as her. Sometimes I'll just stare at people I admire, or think "Wow, that person looks nice today". Little things like that. Some people will ask me why & I'll just tell them. I'm sure you're just pretty, that she's looking at you. Don't stress yourself out. Try talking to her again, it sounds like you guys got along fine. Best of luck <3
- Irene - 11-09-2012 01:19 PM
Be friend with her and ask her directly.