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In the argument that homosexuality is/is not a choice, is there any way that both sides can be correct? - Sophia Estelle - 11-09-2012 09:27 PM
My sister often brings up political debates on her Facebook, typically on the subjects of homosexuality and abortion. In regards to the homosexuality debates, there are two sides. My sister, parents, and a group of their friends argue that homosexuality is a choice. The other side argue that it is not a choice.
Is there any way both of these sides, in their own way, can be equally correct in whether they think it is/is not a choice?
- zellparis - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
no, only the choice side is right and a disgusting choice it is
- HoneyLissaBee - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
I think there is a way both sides can be correct in their views as to whether homosexuality is a choice or not. The problem is that these groups generally have different views on what defines a person as homosexual.
Most of my liberal friends view homosexuality as the physical attraction to someone of the same sex. If a male is sexually attracted to other males, then he is homosexual. On the other hand, many of my conservative friends believe that this man will have to perform sexual acts with another man to make him homosexual.
In this case, both groups can be correct in saying homosexuality is or is not a choice. The problem is, their views on the definition of homosexuality are different. I do believe that a person cannot help their attraction/feelings towards a person. In that sense, sexual orientation is not a choice. However, if the definition depends on acting upon these attractions, then that is a choice. A person can choose whether they have sex with someone of the same sex.
Basically, these people are arguing- but they aren't even talking about the same thing. There's no common ground to these debates.
- Anony Mous - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
no, you cannot choose who you are attracted to - end of - enviromental factors may play a part, eg when i was about 7 i was exposed to lesbian pornography on my brother's laptop when drawing on Paint, whether that had an effect on me I don't know
- Janessa - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
No, I think only one side can be correct and most evidence seems to point to it being something a person is born with.
- Hank H. - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
Nope because it is not a choice to be homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual, or asexual. You can choose not to act on your attractions, or you can choose to try to make it work with someone you're not attracted to, but nobody has any control over what does and does not attract them.
- Olivia Skylar - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
It is not a choice.
I don't know the cause of my sexuality,
maybe I was born gay, maybe I have a gay gene, maybe it's something else,
but I do know I did not choose to be gay!
Why would anyone in the right mind choose to be gay? It does not make life easier, it does not make your dating life easier. Why would anyone choose to be treated as a minority?
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What arguments does your sister have? What makes her believe it is a choice?
And how do you feel about it?
It would be great if you could put the answers to these questions in your additional details.. I'm wondering...
- Tony O - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
Very few people are exclusively heterosexual or homosexual it depends on were they sit on the Kinsey scale. Some lean more to one end of the scale to the other and then it becomes a choice as to what you prefer.
- PurpleCrab - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
Yes (wondering how many thumbs down I'll get from this
)If you consider that although the sexual orientation is not a choice (for all the reasons that are always told), there are indeed not that many people who are 100% gay or 100% straight; there are all shades of bisexuality.
With so many bisexuals, well if they tend to be way closer to one side than the other, it's often simpler to say their gay or straight. So a good proportion of bisexuals gets to be in the shadows because of this.
Another good portion of bisexuals are near being 100% straight, and since they feel they can choose to let themselves be attracted by the same gender, they figure it's the same for everyone, and that's where the argument that it comes from a choice is born.
Because, let's admit it... you like chocolate and peanut butter; if you're told peanut butter is wrong to eat and your family will disown you if you eat it, what the hell, you won't even look at it. You might even contribute to the false message that peanut butter is wrong just so your peers accept you more. It's kind of easy, since you like chocolate too.
Same for bisexuality. I'm bisexual, and if I decide I will never be with a woman anymore in all my life, well I just have to avoid to fall in love with a woman, keep my attraction to them to myself, and here it goes, I seem to be completely male oriented, even though it's not completely the case.
And that makes it a choice somehow. But not a choice to what really moves me inside, no... that I have absolutely no say on; it's too much part of who I am.
- Crim Liar - 11-09-2012 09:35 PM
If you have the ability (whether taken or not) to choose then you are bisexual not homosexual.
I don't think I can distill that any further.