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He didn't call the morning after...dating advice? - Delia - 12-08-2012 10:05 PM
Here's the thing: I met this guy at a bar...we were both quite drunk...we kissed and talked a bit and then i had to leave. After 2 days of searching him on facebook (i didn't even know his name!!!!) i sent him a message telling him that it'd be nice if we met, he wanted to meet me right away but since my parents were in town i couldn't. meanwhile we kept talking, texting, he always said: we'll speak tomorrow, made jokes, asked about me, told me about himself etc etc. I was also told that he was a player, and that his main goal was s.e.x (always!) and actually i was fine with that, he wasn't that much of a bf material and i didn't want sth too emotionally complicated and i made the mistake telling him that, telling him that the day we will meet there was going to be s.e.x and that i didn't want sth more and that i know what his intentions were. that day came and actually he behaved better than i'd ever imagined, we talked before and after doing it, cuddled, made me coffee, smoked a cigarette, once again asked about me and told more about himself and it all went quite good (at least in my opinion) and when i left his house he told me: we'll talk on whatsapp meaning that it didn't finish there but the next day the thing that i feared the most happened: no text, no call, no facebook, no whatsapp, nothing! the day after this i decide to write him and the text was sth like: would u like to go out for a coffee one of these days or does it all end with what happened a few days ago? just tell me yes or no and he replied: tell me when you're ready for a threesome!!!!! (actually he's been asking about it before) i was devastated so i told him: i've already said you that i wouldn't do it but thanks for the offer .anyway, it was literally a pleasure meeting u and maybe we'll see each other one day again. obviously i've never heard of him since and it has been 3 days. the point is that yes i like him now, more than just physically and i want sth more than just s.e.x. i probably did a mistake telling him that i didnt want a relationship while in fact i do now and offered myself in a golden plate and probably he thinks im some sort of s.l.u.t. what can i do in order to make up for that mistake? should i simply tell him how i feel and get over with it? what would u do if u were in my position?
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i'll go to this bar on friday where i hope to meet him "by chance"
- Inverted - 12-08-2012 10:13 PM
he is gay move on
- Cody - 12-08-2012 10:13 PM
you met a guy at a bar and expected a close emotional bond...
- Kathy - 12-08-2012 10:13 PM
You can tell him what you want but you are going to come across as desperate. He has already told you that he's not interested in anything but sex so in that regard he has been very honest.
If you want a serious relationship, find a guy who is looking for the same thing. Good luck.
- Peter - 12-08-2012 10:13 PM
Drunk making out and texting is NOT a basis for a relationship.
If you meet him again - be nice, see how it goes.
Get to know him before building him up in your head as the next big thing.
Good luck.