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TOO MANY FRIEND REQUESTS? - wendy c - 12-24-2013 03:23 AM
My fb acct almost got blocked..because THEY THINK I am sending requests to persons I "don't know". In FACT.. I am secretary for a family group, and trying to get distant relatives involved. I spend hours to research what happened to a relative, find name(s) of living descendents.. and I KNOW EXACTLY who these people are. I send explanation of why I am contacting them, which of course, goes to the "other box" since I am not on their friend list. FINDING FRIENDS/ FAMILY IS THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF FACEBOOK. I only have less than 70 friends on my present list. But they suggest persons I have no interest in or reason to contact...like Dr. Phil's wife, Robin.
INSANE. And my account is at risk due to their stupidity??
Has anyone had this issue??? I see persons with HUNDREDS of friends on their lists.. and I bet they don't know half of them.
Help!! How do I avoid this problem???
msnoose...I sure hear what you are saying. I should have said, finding family and some friends is MY goal. I agree it is abused by some. But, it is a way for me to remain connected to many persons. Every day, I make the effort to send a few friends something positive. The persons on MY page ARE persons I know and interact with. We have a major reunion upcoming, AND it is a means to reach entire family. I can't send regular mail to 300 families, plus phone charges. For me, it is far from intruding.
- J.. - 12-24-2013 03:36 AM
Unless you know the person outside of Facebook, do not send them a friend request. It doesn't matter if you have researched some genealogy and found a long-lost distant relative.
What matters is the person's response when he or she is asked "Do you know this person outside of Facebook?"
If they don't know you, then sending friend requests puts your account at risk.
- msnoose - 12-24-2013 03:45 AM
Hi Wendy; see your question & am just giving my humble opinion. You said "since . FINDING FRIENDS/ FAMILY IS THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF FACEBOOK" and I have to disagree with you there.
I've gotten many requests but I will not join because it's gotten out of hand & I don't need another intrusion into my life. My son showed me his FB which he has but doesn't use & say a cousin or niece is on his, then all of her friends show up on my son's account as friends even though he doesn't even know them. It's like a virus that doubles with each person. I know families have gotten real info & located people from FB but mainly it's a place for people to publicize their lives. I don't understand their motives to make everything public. It's gotten so bad that my young nieces, nephews & other family members have all abandoned their accounts. I really don't think it's for finding family members at all. In fact, I believe most kids on it would be horrified if they knew that their parents saw what they put on /in it. They can view their kid's stuff through other members accounts & so much is just fiction and/or horrifying for parents to see. I don't recommend it and my suggestion would be to limit your FB activity if you want to still be on it. Just my opinion, of course.