Ok... So I've realised that I have some 'feelings' for a woman... But now I have a new problem...?

[Mabe]

Your problem is trying to force yourself to not go by how you feel. How you feel is where your truth is. To deny the truth is confusing you, and you are only battling yourself, and no one else. The key is to find peace in life, and if you can't start this off with yourself, then you won't have that with her or anyone else. So, this big thing with you is to face the truth about your feelings and be comfortable with that. Once that is accomplished then the rest should be easy to find the same way. She already gave you a way in, she just said that it won't be easy. I would wonder what she means exactly by her thinking on "owning" someone. Clear that up. For some reason she seems to have had some experience with a person that feels as though they owned her just because she went out with them, and that didn't set well with her, understandably. There are people like that, and I think she is making sure that you know she won't put up with that if she isn't ready to have a relationship of significance with you or anyone else at time for whatever reason she has.