Im 19 years old, and I just found out I have a 3 year old daughter from my first time having sex. Any advice?

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Get a test just to be sure - you don't want to love this kid to death and find out she's not yours. Tell the mom it's not that you don't' trust her, but you don't want to fall in love with this little girl and have your heart broken.

Do not begin a relationship with this kid unless you are 100% sure you will NEVER just drop out of her life. Even if you're paying child support forever, don't give her the opportunity to meet you and then ignore her - it'll mess her up more than if she doesn't have a clue who her dad is.

Once it's official start hanging out with her. Don't go crazy buying her stuff she wants to make up for lost time or anything, but do help her mom with stuff she NEEDS.

When she's gotten to know you pretty well and the mom is comfortable with you taking her get a car seat. Introduce her to your parents/family...work on a visitation schedule and hopefully you can avoid court.