Im 19 years old, and I just found out I have a 3 year old daughter from my first time having sex. Any advice?

[Stacy]

Wow FYL for not being told. First, get a test. It's not unheard of for people to lie about this. Don't make a big deal, just ask your ex-fling/daughter's mother. Then, if/when it's proved true: meet your daughter. Get to know her. She's only 3, so you need to make sure you're there for the rest of her life. Be there for her. Reconcile with the mother. This is a very delicate situation, but the two of you need to figure out how this is going to work. Shared custody? Visitation? The two of you in a relationship again? Your daughter needs a stable upbringing and you need to be a part of that. She's going to start school soon, so you need to figure out where, as in location, she's going to live. With her mother, or with you. Will you live together? Spend time working with the mother on all this. They both need you.