How do you tell a friend her flaw is annoying?

[Chipsy]

It sounds like she calls you when she needs a break from her family- they are probably driving her nuts too. However, that doesn't make it ok for her to encroach on you constantly. If you feel comfortable doing so, talk to her about it. Let her know that you need time to yourself, and you are not the type of person who enjoys talking to someone on the phone several times a day. If you don't think you can do that, set something up with your family, so whoever answers the phone checks with you before letting her know you're available. If you don't want to talk to her, have whoever answered the phone give her excuses- you're in the shower, at the library, checking the mail, cleaning your room, you're grounded, etc. She'll get your subtle message- that you don't want to talk so much- but hopefully, won't get her feelings hurt.