How can i help my boyfriend cope with adoption?

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you might be able to check adoption.org, I am currently trying to adopt and found a lot of helpful information. He will probably have to wait until he is 18 but see if he can calm down enought to talk to his parents, the ones that have loved him his entire life. Remind him that he is in a good place, there are so many other places he could be (just look at the waiting children in your state or in the nation and you will see all the older children in foster care and group homes).

Its hard to not know where you came from, but chances are he will realize that where he is going is way more important than where he has been, or might have been.

Good luck, be patient.