My boyfriend cheated on the day after he took my virginity?

[Smiling Simon]

To be honest, if your self respect was such that you allowed him to take your virginity after just three weeks, you probably lost his respect for you.

Our teen years are a discovery period, learning about who we are emotionally, mentally and physically: just as our bodies develop in obvious ways, our minds and emotions do in less obvious ones. Life goes in seven year cycles, which, like the seasons, rather merge into each other than suddenly change. At around seven we go from infancy to childhood, around fourteen, adolescence and 21, adulthood. People vary, obviously, but this is why teenage marriages are so very often disastrous in the longer term: it's very hard to get to know and understand others until we get to know ourselves, our own needs, etc. which are still fluctuating a bit until we are "mature". Hence, adolescents' feelings often fluctuate somewhat. This is a very good reason for avoiding the emotionally bonding sexual intercourse, as it can so often lead to serious emotional confusion.

Good luck!