why a married man would give his number to an ex girlfriend and sent sexual messages to her?

[Danin]

and your question is? you know the answer but you are in denial. Which is normal and you need to decide what you want to do with the next 20 years.

He is doing his life journey and his path is veering off. You decide whether to hand on to him and let him do the driving or you now take your own path and become in control of your life and let him know this.

He will allow you to treat yourself with low respect and expect you to see him through this, but why couldnt he have put this much effort into revamping your passion and be there wanting to find ways to intimately please and excite you?

Please see yourself as an individual and not just there as his appendage and for him to decide what to do with.

There is no such thing as midlife crisis where affairs are concerned. It is selfish and lazy. He took the easy way out and wants to have his cake and eat it to.

but what ever you decide. Make sure you know your finances. find out what accounts you have, how much home loan is left, do you have insurance? who is it withand who is the payer. You need to take responsiblity for your life no matter what and he needs to see this.