should i tell my 13 year old son that i've found his biological grandmother on facebook?

[Lisa V]

Well I can - in a way- place myself in his shoes. Im 30 and I do not know my biological father. I had always been told that the man who was my father was deceased.Even when I saw a picture of his familt when I was 17, I questioned it again and my mother still insisted that he was my father, and did not want to help me in contacting them. Now at 30, my mother is trying to search for my father. Yes it was wrong for her to hold that information from me. I wished she would have been able to contact my fathers family prior to me asking and then allow me to make the choice in whether I wanted to meet them or not. I still do not know that if he or his family would want anything to do with me or even know about me. As a 30 year old, I STILL dont know how I would handle it if they didnt accept me. Im just grateful that I havent had any sort of health issues ( such as a bone marrow transplant or a blood transfusion) or hidden health issues caused by his genes in which would have required me to contact them. Honestly, find out if his family would want anything to do with him FIRST. If they accept him with open arms, then let him know that you found them. Regardless if his father wants nothing to do with him or even if his dad has said that his FAMILY wants nothing to do with your son, at least TRY to contact them and ask them personally. Just becasue his dad may not want him in his life, does not mean that his family feels the same. As long as you have been truthful with him thats what counts. If he has a dad in his life now and has a positive role model, thats even better! Good luck on this!!!