What types of things should I ask my biological mom?

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Yay! Oh my gosh, that's incredible. I'm really glad for you.

WELL ... I once sat down with a man for coffee - a professional writer, in fact, after Wordfest hit up Calgary. His name was Arnold Henry, and he wrote an autobiography. He told me, in detail, about how his half-sister found him through Facebook, and how they started to talk for the first time in their lives.
The advice I can give you won't be anything with guaranteed results. It'll be just based on conclusions I've drawn on Mr Henry's feelings about it.

Try not to ask anything too deep or emotional. Since this is your first time talking with her, you'll have to hold yourself back just a bit. Keep it light and simple, because if your inquiries are too heavy, it might be an ineffective approach. To begin with, I'd suggest just sparking some nice conversation. Do try and make it clear that you're in no way upset with her - since you don't seem to be - and that you really want to try and make a bond. If she's aware that you're happy, and comfortable, she'll be more likely to want to talk to you; otherwise, she might feel guilty, responsible, overwhelmed, etc. Mention that you'd like to start corresponding regularly, that you want to keep in touch with her and know how she's doing from time to time, that you're interested and you don't hold any sort of grudge or hard feelings. You just want to get to know her. Begin with that. You want to approach this at a comfortable pace. You don't want to charge right in and overwhelm her, and you don't want to seem cautious, otherwise you might give off the wrong impression.
Make it fun, and quirky. It doesn't have to be sentimental. It can be as simple and straightforward as, "I really like to cook, although I'm kind of horrible at it. Are you a good cook?" (I'm not saying you're horrible at cooking! (: But in all seriousness, I am! Haha...) Introduce yourself, for sure! Tell her about you, and make it clear you want to know the little things about her, too. Keep the e-mail short - trust me, e-mails grow. My pen-pal and I began with four-sentence-long e-mails and they have now grown to 9 pages on Microsoft Word. The crucial element, though, is letting her know you're not unhappy.


By the way, I adore your Halloween-themed icon. Maybe I should get a freaky icon, too. B&A would be so cool if everyone was sporting creepy icons! (:

I really hope it works out with your mother. Best of luck, Xenon!
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