How close are you to your sister/brother?

[nellieh]

Unless she was over 18 and financially able to take care of a sibling, she had no choice but to take herself out of the situation. Not to mention the fact that everyone has to make their own decisions, and an intolerable situation for her may not have been intolerable for you. Parents treat each kid differently in a family, and each person has his/her own tolerance level for problems. I would not begrudge her at all for taking care of herself. She obviously feels guilt about it- but it was unavoidable and will only add to family problems.
(I have a friend who was put up for adoption, while the family kept her older sister and her younger brother! How'z that for feeling left out or bad?? However, she doesn't begrudge the siblings, as it wasn't their decision. They are happy to reunite as adults)