I found my son on Facebook after not seeing him since 96 when he was three. He proceeded to block me. Help?

[mrs_bambi_temp]

You can't just "friend request" your son on Facebook and go back to being a happy family. Sorry, that's not how it works. Maybe he's still angry that you haven't seen him in 14 years. Maybe he doesn't like you. Maybe he's not ready to have a relationship with you right now.

My father abandoned my mother when she got pregnant at 16. I never got a birthday card, visit, or even a note from him, and he did not send my mother a cent of child support. When I was 16, he sent me a friend request on MySpace and expected me to love him, to call him Dad, and to plan a visit to see him (on my own dime) immediately. I have no interest in having someone like that in my life. Maybe your son feels the same way. Yeah, I'm sure it makes you sad, but you left, and you chose to ignore him for 14 years...and now your first attempt at contact is on FACEBOOK? Get a clue. Maybe if you write a letter to him about why you left and how much you regret it, and how you'd love to be able to start out as friends, then he'll give you a chance.

Do not send him messages or try to guilt him into talking to you. It was your choice to abandon him for 14 years. It's his choice whether he wants to invite you back into his life. You may not like the outcome, but you've made your bed and now you've got to lie in it.