How do people become boyfriend and girlfriend?

[LittleBird]

Every relationship is different. (Even the relationships of one person will be different from partner to partner, because people are constantly changing & learning over time.)

Usually one person will be more interested in the other, but there are times when both people feel an immediate & mutual attraction. Sometimes people start out as friends (or even flat-out hating each other sometimes!) and their romantic attraction grows over time as they gain history/a better understanding of each other. There are a lot factors, but it's usually physical attraction and mutual interests (same hobbies, same religion, same political passions, same long-term goals, etc.) There are a few specialty considerations as well--such as people with dominating personalities seeking out more submissive partners, and visa versa. It's all a matter of personal preference, and needless to say, those are vast!

Some people post absolutely EVERYTHING to facebook, and others like to keep things more private. I've noticed that younger people tend to "advertise" their relationships more, but older folks usually make sure things are going to work out before they "take them home to mom." Relationships are easier when you're a teenager because there are fewer life responsibilities and everything is new and exciting.

If you really can't figure it out, try sitting down with a couple you know and asking them how they met. Or you could also just observe how they interact. The key to being happy is to figure out what YOU specifically need in a relationship and find somebody who fills those needs. As well as figuring out the needs you meet in other people, and finding someone who's looking for what you have to offer. I hope this helps you out!