Who thinks overprotective parents are annoying?

[karen_gormley]

Oh, yes I agree with you...that would be SO annoying. On the other hand, I work with deprived teens who would give anything to have someone care about what happens to them and what they`re upto, so I know there is a fine line between too much concern and too little. As someone who remembers how awful it is to have parents like that, but also as someone who has an 18 year old daughter of my own, maybe I could give you a little insight into how we work? As parents we worry about you constantly. Like...it`s a full time obsession. "I need to fill the car up- i wonder if ------- is ok. Shall i make a cup of tea? I wonder if -------is ok," etc. Most of us manage to keep the desire to constanty check things are alright to an acceptably level, but others do let it get a little silly. Obviously you are an adult and able to make your own choices, so maybe to put her mind at ease you could pre-empt her actions.

Make her a cup of tea at some point when you are both calm and friendly with each other.
Tell her that you keep yourself safe, and how you do that, which could stop her worrying as much. then say you will let her know more about what`s going on in your life if she promises not to try to find out by prying, but that the more she tries to drag the information from you the more you`ll clam up, and she`ll carry on getting the wrong end of the stick and worrying and falling out with you needlessly. Take control of the situation from her. But do remember that if she is doing all this because she loves you, letting her know that you are ok and looking after yourself is the nicest thing you could ever do for her.
On the other hand, if you think she is doing it because she is nosey and controlling, or jealous of your life, then maybe you should take her off your facebook friends : )


I hope you and your mum can sort things out...good luck!