What do I do when my parents and sister label me?

[Sliteofhand]

You have two choices here.
1. Be selfish and self-centered and moan about being labeled.
Or
2.Try to be a part of the family discussion; use your brain to determine what they are trying to do..Most likely, they are attempting to get you to conform to a pattern of behavior.
Often when our parents AND older siblings attempt to correct us we rebel and get nowhere.
By trying to understand them we can either conform to what they are saying; or find a way to make them think we are conforming and then do as we please.
If I choose to conform, life around parents and older siblings will improve immensly.
If I choose to fool them; it will only last a while and then my life will get worse.
My suggestion is conform when around the parents and older siblings and then when out on your own; be yourself. My experience is that life as a chameleon gets better with age.