What kind of relationship did you have with your ex in-laws after divorce/separation?

[deb.peg1]

I was very fortunate in the sense that I was able to maintain a cordial and ongoing relationship with my ex-in-laws after my divorce, but only in the sense that there was a child involved. I didn't involve them in the divorce proceedings and when I re-married four years later, they were very accepting of my new husband and were very supportive of my son being legally adopted by my new husband. They knew their son/brother was pretty much a lost cause and their main concern was for the welfare of their grandchild. What went one between their son/brother and me had nothing to do with them. They realized that and I realized that. Neither my new husband nor I felt that our son should not benefit from having a relationship with them as grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousins.
The only reason I believe this worked out so well was because I set the boundaries early on in the process. They knew their son/brother was dangerous and had been abusive. I told them I could only continue a relationship with them and allow them full access to their grandson/nephew if they swore they would never share any information about us with my ex. They agreed and stayed true to their word and as a result, I facilitated an ongoing relationship between them. As a further result, when my ex told lies about me, it came to fisticuffs between him and his father.
All you can do is try to be the bigger person. I would not have had anything to do with my ex's family if it had not been for our son, even though they are perfectly nice people and always treated me with the utmost of respect.
Carry your head high and know you've done nothing wrong. Truth always comes out in the end and people who show their lack of class ... just consider the source.