How do you just stop loving someone you originally wanted to marry?

[No More]

One of the main changes in our lives that has taken place over the past 40 years or so has been the emergence of women as individuals. Depending on your age it might be completely foreign to you that there was ever a time where women did not go to college, learn a marketable, skill, or even have much of an opportunity to provide for themselves financially.

Traditional marriage fit well and harmoniously with the ways of the world. A man would provide for his family and a woman was expected to raise the family, and look after the needs of the household. In return there was mutual love and respect between a husband and wife for the important roles that each of them played in the balance of their life together. Marriages and bonds were forged not always because of the love shared but because of the realization that these people needed each other for their lives to work.

Skip ahead now are understand that in our world and in our time successive generations of girls have grown up with knowledge that they can achieve, strike out on their own, and enjoy the success and financial independence that has reduced men to an option rather than a prerequisite for happiness and security. On top of that it is increasingly difficult for a good man with a good job to take care of his family without some kind of income from a second job or his wife's willingness or desire to work outside of the home.

You don't think in the past that there we not affairs, abuses, and other marital disagreements? The reason for the higher divorce rates that we see now are not because there is a lack of the need for love or commitment... the higher divorce rate is result of women having options and no longer having to stay in bad marriages because they have no where else to go...

Women are more confident in their abilities and options and don't have to accept a life with an adulterous husband, a drunk husband, an abusive husband any longer... The flip side to these social changes is the unforeseen failure of many men to adjust to these changes and still strive to live up to their obligations... Simply put, men and women both bail on marriages today because we are not bound by the same dependence that we used to have on each other.

The world used to be dependent on personal communication and relationships... now the world communicates through Facebooks, Faxes, Emails, Twitters, and voicemail.... the handwritten note has been replaced by a Post It or a Hallmark card that plays a song instead of delivering heartfelt thoughts...

Social change and technology have widened the distance between the sexes...

Divorce is high because in 1950 women in a bad relationship had no where to go... and today they have options.