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Liz · 11-27-2012, 06:54 AM

Being a 21-year-old girl, maybe I can give an insight into what she may be thinking. I feel bad that she's not as into you as you are into her. But maybe my answers are somewhat right.

(1) Sorry that it didn't work out between you and her but sometimes online you get a false idea about whether someone is truly interested in you. They may be talking out of boredom or excited that they have someone to talk to. But when it's so distant and only online, feelings or that initial interest start to fade.

(2) I think there's not much you CAN do to get her to want to talk again if she's already made up her mind that she isn't interested. Since you're younger, maybe she still sees you as a little kid (not that you are but you have to realize that she's over 18, an adult, and you're a teenager). She probably already has other guys interested in her, older ones perhaps.

(3) Maybe she asked for your Facebook as a way not to hurt your feelings. Giving you her number would mean getting calls/texts and with Facebook it's more impersonal so she'll have a reason to ignore the messages and say she just didn't check it or something (like how she accepted the friend request 3 weeks later). Or since you made it seem as though texting would be a problem for you, she asked for your Facebook instead so you won't have to worry about texts.

(4) You can try. And if she still doesn't respond, then don't message her again.

(5) I don't think that's a good idea. It makes you sound desperate, not that you are but it will make you sound like it.

Where did you find this girl? I'm sure you can find someone, even online, who'll give you more attention than she does. But whatever you do, don't get too upset over it. I know what it's like waiting for someone's call/message and never getting it. It's depressing, but at least your heart isn't being broken face-to-face. I say, find someone else to help you get over her. Plus, she's 19 and has kids. I'm sure you can do better.