Is physical attraction everything?

[Adam]

Unfortunately, you are right on this matter as far as MOST guys are concerned. Now that being said, I don't personally go for just looks but they definetly help and if you lose some weight, the guys who once rejected you will come CRAWLING to you in droves. My girlfriend is skinny but she underweight (5'8 & 105lbs) and hides her small frame with too large cardigans as she is incredibly selfconcious about being so skinny and virtually unable to gain weight because of her cystic fibrosis. Most guys tend to have 'cut off points' where the girls they are going for have to be just right otherwise, they are considered 'anorexic' if they are too thin or 'too fat' if they look even slightly overweight. It's quite sad really because like you said you are relegated to 'friend' status pretty quickly. As far as losing weight for yourself, try to eliminate stress from your life as much as possible as this one little tip can go a long way in helping you drop pounds before you know. Also, don't get discouraged by the scale as it can be somewhat deceiving. For example, if you drink a half liter of water (which has no calories at all) you will gain about a pound in 'water weight' but will lose that pound as the water passes through your system. Good luck with that though and stick with.