How to talk to my crush?

[Jenna Marie]

Don't listen to that one douche. You are a wonderful, beautiful person who deserves to be happy!

The truth is, yes, it is scary. But you know what, do it despite your fears! Today I decided to message this girl on facebook that seemed really nice and I wanted to be friends with (I'm a straight girl!), and it turns out we have so much in common and now we're talking about hanging out someday. If I never took a leap of faith, I would have missed out on a great opportunity to make a wonderful friend. He is doing the right thing by going up to you, and you need to reciprocate at least a little

YOLO really is the slogan here. You only have one shot, so take advantage of it! Tell yourself that life is about taking risks, and you don't want to spend it wondering "what if". And honestly, what's the worst that can happen? You embarrass yourself for a moment. I doubt he'll even remember it after a day!

Just talk to him like you would talk to a girl. I'm being serious. Obviously, you're shy, so you're not going to flirt with him, and I honestly think you shouldn't at first. He's going up to you, so obviously he at least likes you as a person. Just smile and take deep breaths. Confidence is an act- you can't be confident unless you fake it first. Act like you are so sure of yourself and everything you say, and if you say something stupid just laugh about it and make a joke! Then he won't see it as embarrassing or awkward, he'll think your cute!

And don't take this too seriously. I highly doubt he's the "love of your life", but he could be a great opportunity for some wonderful memories and a good relationship. Just try your best to let things prosper, and if they don't, life moves on. You're young- it's okay for a relationship to not work out. Don't freak yourself out.

This boy is only human. He has insecurities, feelings, and fears just like you do. He is not some God that is flawless and never feels embarrassed or insecure about himself. Understand that, and it'll be a lot easier. He is no better than you!

And lastly, just ask him questions about himself. If you two have a class together, ask how he likes it and if he's struggling. If he's wearing a T-shirt with a band on it, ask him what kind of music they play. Another great thing is facebook chat. If you both have facebooks, and he's online, hit him up! It's a great way to get to know someone without succumbing to all that face-to-face pressure. Obviously your entire friendship shouldn't exceed there, but it's definitely a good foundation.

Be yourself and never settle for someone who doesn't treat you right. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and love, and if you act confident, and stay true to who you are, someone is bound to love you!