My husband give money away before talking to me.?

[Richard the lion]

If you have full access to all of his accounts then you have no reason not to trust him or to sneak around or to be this upset. You are going way over the top on this.

While money issues can kill a happy marriage, such issues can easily be resolved when a budget has been worked out and adhered to. This includes money set aside for you and for him to do with as you both please. This way you do not need his permission how it will be spent and he does not need yours.

"Immediately I felt betrayed, shocked. The feeling is indescribable, like someone shoot me in the chest. I feel hollow."

That is just simply way over the top in my opinion! Try to get some perspective on this.

Instead of making this into a federal case I suggest you and your husband sit down, review the budget priorities and should something like this come up again how it will be dealt with without all of the drama.