Whats the resolution?

[D. B.]

You are right. The only thing you can do is be supportive. I would stay out of his relationship with his children. i would not be sending them facebook messages for now. Not forever but for now. You can talk to your sman as much as you want about it in private but let him deal directly with his kids and you should just on the sidelines about dealing with them directly. It will all work out the way it is supposed to. It is a confusing situation with all the kids and stuff. I would plan where you live and stuff around what is best for you and him financially as far as your jobs and such as maintaining your income is crucial when you have so many children dependent on you two.