I need some help with a problem!?

[Becka]

Okay, so, I'm a 24-year-old chick and married to a 32-year-old man. I am a very freaky and kinky gal, and I love love love sex. When I say freaky and kinky, I mean that I love bondage, sex toys, oils, massages, rough sex, etc. and I would be more than okay doing it every day. My husband and I used to do it all the time, sometimes a couple of times a day, and he expressed the same bedroom interests as me. He would hit on me and flirt with me all the time, initiate the sex, and loved it when I would send him dirty pictures while he was at work. He would come home from work after I sent him a dirty picture and throw me on the bed and have his way with me. I was thrilled and always exhausted, just the way I like it. He knew my body better than I did. For the past year or so, though, he has barely noticed me. I send him dirty pictures while he's at work, and he doesn't even acknowledge them when he gets home. When I ask if he liked the pictures, he just distractedly says yes, and goes about his business. We have gone months at a time without having sex, and during this time, he shrugs off my advances and completely ignores me, physically. I once caught him using a flash drive, and I asked him what he was doing, and he said that he was deleting his old work stuff off of it. I then noticed that he was doing a system restore on his laptop. After he went to work, I looked everywhere for his flash drive, and I couldn't find it. When he got home, I asked him where it was, and he said he didn't know. After he went to bed, I looked in his pants pocket, and found the flash drive. I popped it into my laptop, and lo and behold, there are hundreds of porn pictures, most of them just naked women. There were a few suggestive photos of friends that he used to pursue before he met me, like ones that he would save off of their social media profiles, and they were in a folder named "friends". I have caught him searching out old flames on social media sites, and I've caught him looking at porn A LOT, and this was during the time that he was refusing my advances and neglecting me. He has lied to me several times and betrayed my trust concerning these issues, and I had a full-on emotional breakdown after I found out what was on the flash drive. He got on his knees and begged me to not to leave him (I asked him what the point was in me staying if I couldn't trust him) and I saw real fear in his eyes. Since then, he has given me his passwords and I've been keeping tabs, and he has kept his promise. The thing that still upsets me is that he still doesn't want sex very often, and he has lost his kinky ways. He says that it's just exhaustion and stress from work, but even on his days off, when he sleeps in until noon, he claims to be tired or just not in the mood. I have been relying on masturbation for a year now, and it's just not doing it anymore. I need the physical contact and the intimacy of sex, and I want him. There have been times when I prettied myself up as much as I could, wearing the bra and panties he used to like on me, and I would start foreplay with him, trying to get him in the mood, and he would reject me, and I would just lose control of my emotions and start crying and saying that I didn't know what to do anymore to get him to notice me and want me, and he would hug me and apologize, but he would still have nothing to do with me, sexually. I wrote him a letter, explaining exactly how I felt, and after that, he was spontaneous again and initiated the sex on the regular basis, but that lasted for about two weeks, and he said that he knew that it wasn't okay for him to neglect me and ignore me. But, now, again, we're only having sex about once every 1-2 weeks, and it's like pulling teeth to get him to even do that. If I wasn't persistent in my advances, we would be having sex once every three months, and that bothers me, that it's such a pain for him to even get turned on by me and want to have sex with me. Is there anyone out there that has any advice for me? Either chicks in the same situation as me, or dudes? Thank you in advance!!