How many Dates does he Need to know whether or not he wants a relationship with me?

[Elizabeth Kennedy]

I'll try to make a long story short. Met a great guy (or so I thought) via a friend/family member on Facebook. He lives in Colorado. I live in Austin. His family lives here in Austin too. I used to live in Colorado. He loved all my pictures on FB, we wrote long messages for months. He flew out to meet me. We hit it off.

We had 3 days and 2 nights (overnight) dates here, then, as soon as I could (several weeks later), I flew out to him and spent 4 nights with him. Again, we had a great time. I knew he wanted to move the relationship onward to sex, but, I had a feeling (and it turned out to be correct) that he was seeing and possibly sleeping with other people, so, I told him that I was not ready. So, no sex, but, we still had a great time and slept in the same bed together each night and did a lot of other things...

I told him that I would not be comfortable sleeping with someone unless it was exclusive. He tells me that he wants to 'get to know me better' and is bothering me to go visit him again.

I feel that if I go visit him again, the sex is almost inevitable, but, he seems to be completely dodging having a real relationship with me at this point. We talk, text, frequently, but, we can't see eye to eye on this issue.

I know it's long distance, but, I really like him a lot and he seems to be very into me, or, is he just wanting to be "into me And everyone else"? Shouldn't 8 days and nights of dates and months and months of talking be enough time to know if you want a relationship with someone?

By the way, we are both in our late 30's and he's a Dentist.