I wasn't invited to my bestfriends party?

[Leanne]

No you are not over-reacdting - this is extrremely hurtful and I can understnd how surprised and upset you must feel, and bewildered too.

I know you dont want to askl her, but I really think you have to be brave cos this is the only way forward. If you don't , the unanswered question of why she didn't, will hang over you forever and eat away at you.

Maybe you don't want to confront her because you don't want to make things worse, or have a row, or end up not friends at all. What if there was a way of talking to her without any of those things happening,but finding out the truth of the matter and maybe becoming closer friends as a result?

First off,is there any way she could possibly have misunderstood about your own birthday, and thought that you excluded her from something,anything? Has she had any history of being spiteful or vengeful to you because of arguments or misunderstandings? Had you had any sort of falling out or conflict in the lead up to the party? Is it remotely possible that she DID invite you by some form of communciation that failed, or even thought she'd invited you and never realized she'd forgotten to mention it?

Give her the present anyway and leave the chat till slightly after. Maybe you could approach the subject in a calm, friendly but concerned way and say something along the lines of 'I saw on facebook that you had a good party and to be honest, I was quite hurt that you didnt invite me. Have I done anything to upset or offend you, was that why Iwasn't invited? If I have, I want know so I can make things right between us - I really value our frinedship and I look on you as my best friend.' Try to leave any sounds of accusation or blame out of your voice to avoid triggering guilt which could turn to defensiveness in her, but make yoru voice sound calm, caring and concerned. If there IS something that she has harboured some bad feelings about but beenunable to voice them, this might give her the courage to explain.

This is always the possibility that the friendship between you is fading.

If you really can't bring yourself to speak to her, maybe yoru mothr coudl have a word with her mother, and see if any light can be shed.