Moving on: How soon is too soon after a suicide in the family?

[bkarikan]

My brother is currently in a coma with a very low likelihood to any kind of recovery after a suicide attempt.

I haven't been able to think of anything except guilt for not doing enough from my brother or blaming myself for ignoring him when he needed the most help. I haven't been able to do much of anything except finding new doctors, techniques, information that could help him. I know rational that with time I'll accept what's happened and that I can't solely blame myself for what he did, but right now I can't think of anything else but trying to help him.

A week has passed and I find the rest of my family is mindlessly at home watching television, playing games, updating facebook statuses, and my sister has recently told us that she just got engaged. Even at the hospital they just go to see him and then sit in the reception area while I talk to doctors/nurses/administrators to get options for my brother.

I'm really not sure if my feelings of disgust and disappointment with my family's lack of mourning are valid or due to an misguided/angry lashing out. Which is why I'm asking an unbiased opinion from this community.

Am I just taking too long to accept what's happened?

Are they moving on too soon?

Do people just react to something like this in different ways or is this an example of our passive/mindless modern culture?

Thank you for any answers.