marriage advice needed?

[jenniferology]

I have been where you are & I understand your predicament. It's a precarious one indeed. It sounds like your husband may have a personality disorder, i.e bipoloar. Of course, only a licensed physiologist can tell and normally a person of such demeanor won't go see anyone b/c they think they are just fine.

You can't make him treat you better or go seek help. So the solution is going to have to come from you albeit your choices are tough. It seems like you are going to have to decide what you want & how you are going to go about it to obtain it. I suggest you looking up articles on personality disorder and bipolarism. (You may want to delete your cookies on the pc afterward if he uses the same pc) I'm afraid that you are either going to have to confront his dismal attitude towards you and not accept it any longer or you may have to find other suitable living arrangements.

If you could make him do something then your problem could be solved. Since you are the only one you can control you are going to have to make some tough choices. Stay or leave. Take the abuse or demand respect. Either road is tough, I know...but one of those tough roads have freedom at the end,

God bless,
j