Thinking about dropping my sorority, any advice or help on the situation?

[Skylark in ♥]

I'm sorry you've had such a negative experience with your sorority. From what you've described, you became a part of it with a positive attitude and have put forth the effort to form sisterly friendships, and I'm disappointed on your behalf that your sisters haven't reciprocated and made you feel welcomed and valued. Ideally, a modern sorority should be filled with intelligent and motivated young women who encourage and support one another and are contributing members of their community, but realistically, that isn't the case with every chapter on every campus.

Your feelings have understandably been hurt, and everything you're written is valid. You're not being ridiculous at all. I don't know exactly how long you've been in the sorority, but if you're still in your freshman year you might want to persevere with it a bit longer and see what happens. I would stay with your sorority through the end of the academic year and reevaluate your situation then. Continue to be an optimist and to keep reaching out. Hopefully, someone will reach back and connect with you. My sorority is probably quite a bit smaller than yours since my campus has a medium-sized student body, and the ones at SEC colleges tend to be huge with larger Greek houses. Chances are, there is someone who has the potential to become a great friend, but maybe you have to look harder to find her. You might also want to seek advice from the president or another sister who has been there longer to ask about what you can do. Oftentimes sororities will have spring retreats or other wholesome bonding activities (Ie, not ones that involve hooking up with a guy), and they're great opportunities to get to know your sisters better and forge tighter bonds.

If your sorority is still taxing your joy, finances, and time in a couple of months then consider going through the proper steps to officially disaffiliate. Do not simply stop showing up for meetings and activities or withdrawing in other ways. You want to leave with dignity and grace, and to retain good relations as much as possible. You're going to encounter women from the sorority again even after you leave, and you don't want to feel awkward about it. I don't think you will if you handle things with finesse. Lots of people disaffiliate for a variety of reasons, from a lack of time to a lack of funds for the fees. Try to be diplomatic when you explain why you're leaving instead of complaining about specific girls or slamming the sorority as a whole. Another reason to properly disaffiliate is to release your obligation for future dues and fees. Keep all copies of any paperwork you sign. Though it's uncommon, there have been cases of people being hounded by collection agency for dues they hadn't realized they were still expected to pay because they hadn't officially left their fraternity or sorority.

Keep your head up.

~ skylark : )