Does your spouse maintain contact with their ex's?

[Joseph Gamble]

There is a very thin line here. My wife of 15 years found out early on that my ex was still contacting me. My ex and I had a very good friendship way before we had a relationship though. However, I can honestly say occasionally during those conversations it went to places that I know would have hurt my wife. So I told her I needed to tone it down a bit....Then I asked (I mean you wouldn't have wanted me talking to ex's when we were together would you?) shortly after that the contact ended. That is your answer right there. If you communicate to him how it makes you feel and he still continues to do it. Then whatever is going on he certainly values it over you. Friendship or cheating. However it is important for him to have freedom but not if it makes his wife feel uncomfortable. It doesn't sound to me like you are stalking him or telling him he can not go. Communication is key and essential in every relationship. I would express my feelings and let him make the choice. Find the happy medium if at all possible. Its okay to be a part of social media where your ex's like to linger....but does he feel the need to contact them multiple times a week. It should be kept to an extreme minimum. Otherwise it jeopardizes commitment he made to you and the foundation of your marriage.

GOOD LUCK