How do I make myself like men more, and not to dismiss them in social situation?

[puppetman]

Wow! Fabulous job of explaining the past, present, and potential future of your dating life! I also liked the way that you did not say that you are looking for another professional, so you must realize that you will find things in common outside of the work place.

Think of meeting guys as an afternoon at the beach. Chances are that a group of girls would prefer to sit on towels and talk, while the guys are off throwing frisbees or jumping the waves. However, guys are throwing frisbees and jumping waves so the girls on the beach will notice them! What they really want to do is sit on the towel with you and talk.

Decide that you are not going to judge a guy before you see both sides of him. So you may have to toss a few frisbees yourself. (Laugh at jokes, be enthusiastic, show those bright eyes.) The first step is to just smile. That's like wading along the edge. If you wade you have automatically separated yourself from the towel talkers and guys will come to you. Same thing if you cast a smile when it isn't expected.