If a close friend doesnt want to talk about a problem with you, does that mean you guys arent that close?

[¡Sarita!]

It's normal to have things that you don't want to tell to even your CLOSEST friends. It has nothing to do with trust or not being as close as you thought. It would be UNHEALTHY if we didn't have SOME things that we kept to ourselves. It's possible he really doesn't remember, or maybe he only remembers bits and pieces. It's also possible that he is just not ready yet, and plans to tell you eventually, but he has to think about what he wants to say. When you have something really bad happen to you, unless someone was there to witness it with you, it can be hard to explain without confusing others or even yourself. You might get confused on the details, so something you say might not make sense, or maybe you are trying to explain your emotions and can't because the emotions are so deep that words cannot describe them accurately. Sometimes people just want to vent about stuff at the time about being upset but they don't want to actually open up and talk to someone about it. Maybe he just wants to forget about it and move on. And there is nothing wrong with that. He may have found away to express his feelings without telling anyone. Like writing it down in a letter and burning it, or going to some isolated area on his own, like some quiet pond or something, where he could talk it out with himself. Either way, you should always be respectful of his privacy. I would let this one go and forget about it. He isn't trying to send a message to you that he doesn't trust you or that he wants to hurt you by not telling you everything. He simply wants to keep it to himself, for whatever his reasons are. You shouldn't worry about it, I'm sure you have things that you don't tell anyone, I doubt you have shared ALL your life experiences with him. Just be there for him when he needs you, if he wants to talk, then let him, just listen and don't keep bringing it up, he will if and when he is ready! If he does seem to want to tell you just listen and be very respectful before bugging him about it. It's ok to ask him "what's wrong? are you ok?" when he is clearly upset, but if he says he doesn't want to talk about him, don't push him til he snaps, just tell him that if he ever wants to talk you are there to listen and you won't push him to talk if he doesn't want to. Good luck, life is tough, but I think everything will turn out well and be just fine!