Have I made the right decision breaking up with my partner?

[Janet]

Read your question again,

You state 'I am happier' without her.

She has issues she needs to sort out (in therapy) unless she can get a handle on her insecurities she will never change.

You need to take a look at why it is that you are considering going back into a relationship....to make HER feel better, thats MAD.

What your describing is a relationship that is known as co-dependent, where one of you (YOU) needs to give to the relationship more than the partner, or forgo your needs for theirs.

Usually this pattern is set up in childhood because a parent demanded you subvert your needs to meet theirs.

And you now unquestionably fulfil the other person in a relationships needs first.

This is a pattern you will repeat until you act with more awareness and honour your own feelings.