My friend hates me, what should I do?

[D R]

First off, I'm pretty sure she doesn't hate you. More then likely she isn't happy about or comfortable with the fact that her mother is a lesbian and it probably took her guts to confide that in you. She condided in you because she trusted you and was probably looking for support and when you reacted how you did she might have felt and judged and embarrassed.

All you can do is apologize (not over and over) and giver her some space, she will come around. Go to the store and get her a card and hand write a note in it explaining that you care about her and your friendship and you didn't mean to upset her with what you said. Tell her that was your first experience with something like that, remind her that you are only a kid and you weren't thinking before you reacted. Tell her you aren't judging anybody, you just didn't know how to react but you didn't mean to upset her in anyway, and just finish by saying that you are really sorry and hope to talk to her soon. After you mail her this letter, just drop it don't pester her, the ball is in her court. Don't keep saying you are sorry, she heard you the first ten times and eventually it can become annoying and it really doen't change anything that happened.

Just give her sometime, what happened really isn't a big deal; she doesn't hate you, she is just upset and if she is a true friend she will forget you. You really didn't do anything that wrong. We ALL, adults included, say things wrong from time to time.