Does it sound like theres a chance to get back together or is he stringing me along for sex?

[rozen]

First off…I’m a guy so I can tell you that I know how guys think…we waffle everything…Guys always, always ask themselves questions when confronted with a question from a woman. “Why did she ask me that? Women compartmentalize everything…woman take information that they learn about a guy and sort it in little compartments to build a profile on a guy. That’s great…but how do you know that he is into you and wants you around for the long haul? There are only 2 ways (show and tell). 1) You are receiving special attention as described below and 2) He tells you directly. There are countless women out there that would desire to know, with keen interest, when it is time to move on from a guy, especially when there is attraction between the both of you. You enjoy each others company, there are similar interests in the arts, activities, music, etc., however there is something missing…that special touch and attention.

Now, I may get into trouble with the guys for stating this but women are more intuitive than men when it comes to relationships. I was asked, as a “ready to take on the world” young adult, “Do you know when to tell a woman that you love her?” Here’s the answer…”Before someone else does?” Woman want to know, and should I add, want to hear how you feel about them. If I guy does not demonstrate romantic flair (holding hands, kissing, etc.), or at least speak his peace with words of affirmation and endearment, then it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.

The “little” things:

Is it in his kiss?

Does he hold your hand?

Introduce you to his friends and family?

Be willing to meet your friends and family?

Have a relationship with your children?

Is there for you emotionally?

Can talk to him about anything?

I’m sure there are more questions that apply however here are a few critical issues that need to be addressed. Of course, the length of the relationship plays a factor in this evaluation. I would say that if the length of the relationship is six months or more and that feeling of bliss is not being reciprocated, it might be time to address these issues with your guy. Do not let them fester. You might say, “He knows my needs and wants. Why doesn’t he act on them?…but you just answered your own question. He knows what they are! Now, I’m not telling you to throw in the towel…just saying to be careful.

Here is some additional food for thought:

If you never received that special attention from the very beginning chances are you will not get it at this stage either. On the other hand, if he continues to be coy, both verbally and physically, concerning your needs then you may want to keep your options open based on the stability of this relationship.

Do not settle nor linger in a dead-end, unfulfilled relationship where signs of love do not exist. You deserve to know if he can feel that void in your life. Only you know how important these special “little” things are in your spirit and with the right guy in can be unforgettable.