I feel so bad, will he forgive me?

[athena.bond42]

When your boyfriend is having flirtatious conversations with his ex, on a regular basis, you have a right to be upset.

The fact that you happened to see it on his computer becomes irrelevant. He's the one committing the crime and he's trying to make it seem like you;re the one who has done something wrong.

The fact is, you don;t trust him because he;s not trustworthy. How would HE feel if if he found you flirting with your ex in the same way? Hmm..

He yelled at you because he got caught and tried to deflect. You apologized but you said sorry for too much. Here's what you should have said.

"The only thing I apologize for is that I couldn't help myself from reading something of yours that was personal. What I discovered however is now the issue. You betrayed me first by carrying on this relationship with your ex, but you're trying to make this about me snooping. If you truly loved me, you wouldn't be doing this. You're welcome to communicate as much as you like with whomever you like now.. I'm out."

Let him do the apologizing. If he does love you, he will and he'll also realize he was in the wrong. If he doesn't then he's a jerk. When someone gets caught betraying you, the method by which it's discovered becomes unimportant. He's been lying to you for quite sometime. Umm.. who's guilty?

It's like you peering in someone's window and seeing them murder someone - then having that person accuse you of being a peeping Tom. Ridiculous.