my ex boyfriend said really mean things to me. i feel so hurt?

[lullaby9]

i had a long distance relationship with a guy for about 2.5 months. we would text literally everyday all day, and also talked on the phone and skyped a few times. i had a hard time trusting him. anyway, he broke up with me cuz he thoughts i overreacted. he never really took responsibility for what he did. maybe the way i acted was crazy, like blowing up his phone, but i felt he never respected me. so we decided to be friends with benefits cuz i just couldn't let go. i was still in love with him. he started calling me baby again and made me feel like i was the only woman he was talking to everyday. but i suspected he was persuing this other woman on instagram. he got mad said its not true. but she had this pic posted on her profile that he sent me through a text message. the only way she could've received it is if they were texting each other. then i saw he added this person on facebook. its just some random girl from another state. so we had this big argument and stopped talking to each other. i got really upset cuz i couldn't trust him again. i felt like he had lead me on. he ended up blocking me from everything. like my number, facebook, ig, etc. i finally got in contact with me cuz i missed him and i told him i never felt like he respected me. he started telling me its hard to respect someone who isn't working and lives at home. which is true, but I'm having a hard time finding a job. just going through a tough phase in my life, but i don't think thats a reason to be so mean to me. he said so many other rude things to bring me down and started saying i could be like this girl who he has been persuing. i felt like he really crossed the line. he compared me to this woman who is the reason that he and i don't speak anymore. i don't want to be anything like her. but anyway, he went on to say all these nasty things to me. this was a few days ago. i feel so hurt, like he really tore me down. I've never had anyone be so rude to me in my life. and i can't stop thinking about everything he said. and now i can't stop going to he profile online since he started comparing me to her. how do i get through this?
i need to add that the fwb thing never did happen. i was planning to visit him, but that changed after we stopped speaking. and i wasn't going to visit him just for sex. and its not like it was some random guy. it was my ex.