I need to break up with her...?

[Mircat]

An emotionally needy person who makes you their primary support and go-to person can be exhausting and draining. If she has been talking suicide then she needs a professionally trained psychologist and that's not you. If she was using suicidal talk as a way to emotionally blackmail and guilt trip you and/or her friends in giving her the attention she wants then she's got even more issues than you think.

Wait until after New Year's for the break up. Stop telling her you love her and you care and making statements of emotional caring because that sends the wrong signals. If you want to drag it out a bit you can stop answering her calls and texts as quickly. Take some time to do it and don't see her every day. About mid-January you can tell her that you have given this a great deal of thought and you have finally decided that you need to be free from the claustrophobic feeling the relationship gives you and that you are not interested in planning a future together. You tell her that you wish her the very best of luck and that the two of you are not on the same page and it's best to call a halt to things now. Then you never say another bad word about her to anyone! If I were you, I'd have my best friend with me or very near by because you have no idea if this wacko is going to throw a scene and claim you said all kinds of things so you want to CYA with a witness.

Then you give her these sites:

https://www.imalive.org/

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

http://www.boystown.org/hotline

http://www.beinggirl.com/article/teenage-suicides/ - this site is for you to read

If you are friendly with her best friend or best friends then you can forward these sites to those girls in case she starts talking suicide and they have the resources to refer her to. Do that AFTER you break up not before!

Then you block her on all social media so she does not inundate you texting and calling! Change your number if necessary.

In the future, get a good understanding of the girl's mental state and issues before you ask her to be your girlfriend. If she's having family problems, don't ask!

Best of luck!