bad way to end a 4 year relationship?

[Wrong Answer]

The thing is, you initially gave her permission, so you cannot now take that away. You are stuck there.

The guy, Colby is in the military and most likely is having a very difficult time of it. With Obama in the White House and his complete disrespect to not just young people, but all the military branches in general, I sure would not wan to be anyone in the military. Your girlfriend is most likely helping him with his depressed state. Good for her.

That being said, why do you not do the same thing? Same Standard Rule means you get to talk to your old girlfriends as well. Perhaps talk to all your old girlfriends. This is the time to catch up with them. See what is going on. What have they been doing with themselves? Who are they dating now and why? You are really going to gain so much knowledge by learing from and now being friends with your past romantic partners. Knowledge is power!

I would not end things. You both are actually showing maturity. Growing pains. After all, you want her to be the absolute best and being herself as she can be. I bet she wants the same for you as well. This way, after you two get married, you both know you can count on each other.

Now that I answered your question, please go back in to Yahoo Answers and help out others by answering at least as many questions as you have asked. 37 questions asked, but only 15 answers given. You will probably find by helping others, you will actually help yourself a lot more.

Good luck.